SELF CONCEPT
Self-Concept The total picture a person has of him/herself. It is a combination of: traits values thoughts feelings that we have for ourselves (self-esteem)
Self-Esteem Feelings you have for yourself from moment to moment, experience to experience. Changes often Influenced by: People Experiences Expectations
Important Points A child is born with 100% self-esteem A person s self concept is developed early in life and affects the way that person functions in his/her environment. Children develop self-concepts through what they believe the important people in their life feel about them. Self-concept can evolve and change throughout life.
Self-Concept Cycle
How the cycle works.. As I see myself is formed largely by our own perception of what others think of us. This influences our actions Our actions in large part determine how others actually do see us and directly influence their reactions to us in return. Their reactions again, influence the way we see ourselves. This is a continuous cycle in our lives.
Self-Concept Some people have positive self concepts which make them feel capable and competent. Their actions demonstrate those feelings, and others react positively to their actions, which, in turn validates those feelings. Other people have negative self concepts which cause them to lack confidence in their abilities. These negative feelings affect their actions and others in turn will react negatively to their actions, this time validating negative self feelings.
Promoting Self-Esteem in Children Providing successful experiences for the child Treating children with Love & Respect Objecting to BEHAVIOR - not the CHILD. Praising the child for achievements. Avoiding Competition - always a loser. Set individual goals for each child. Giving children room to achieve & explore. Letting them make mistakes and then learning from them Allowing children to make choices whenever possible. Helping children to understand their feelings. Releases for emotions
Showing a basic feeling of worth & dignity toward children. Children need respect Providing for productive & creative work. music-art-drama-poetry and literature Listening to children and talking with them. Active Listening: eye contact - let them know they are heard Clear Messages - let child know exactly what is expected of him/her Guidelines for Behavior. Guiding through Love instead of Fear or Guilt. Encouraging Independence. Don t do anything for a child that he can do for himself! Avoid Power Struggles. Be a Good Role Model. Nicknames - be positive - we become what we hear we are. Let children overhear positive comments about them.
101 Ways to say Very Good 1) SUPER! 2) GOOD WORK! 3) THAT S IT! 4) GREAT! 5) WOW! 6) TERRIFIC! 7) PERFECT! 8) WONDERFUL! 9) FINE! 10) OUTSTANDING! 11) FANTASTIC! 12) TREMENDOUS! 13) MARVELOUS! 14) SUPERB! 15) SENSATIONAL! 16) EXCELLENT! 17) That s right! 18) That s good 19) You re really working hard today 20) You are very good at that 21) That s coming along nicely 22) I m happy to see you working like that 23) That s much, much better! 24) Exactly right 25) I m proud of the way you worked today 26) You re doing that much better today 27) You ve just about got it 28) That s the best you ve ever done 29) You re doing a good job 30) Now you ve figured it out 31) That s quite an improvement 32) I knew you could do it 33) Congratulations! 34) Not bad 35) Keeping working on it 36) You re improving 37) Now you have it! 38) You are learning fast 39) Good for you 40) Couldn t have done it better myself 41) Aren t you proud of yourself? 42) One more time and you ll have it 43) You really make my job fun 44) That s the right way to do it 45) You re getting better every day 46) You did it that time! 47) That s not half bad 48) Nice going 49) You haven t missed a thing! 50) That s the way! 51) Keep up the good work
Continued 52) Nothing can stop you now 53) That s the way to do it 54) You ve got your brain in gear today 55) That s better 56) That was first class work 57) That s the best ever 58) You ve just about mastered it 59) That s better than ever 60) Much better! 61) You must have been practicing 62) You did that very well 63) You re on the right track now! 64) Nice going 65) You re really going to town 66) That s how to handle that 67) Now that s what I call a fine job 68) That s great 69) Right on! 70) You re really improving 71) You re doing beautifully! 72) Good remembering 73) You ve got that down pat 74) You certainly did well today 75) Keep it up! 76) Congratulations. You got it right! 77) You did a lot of work today 78) Well look at you go 79) That s it 80) I m very proud of you 81) I like that 82) Way to go! 83) Now you have the hang of it 84) You re doing fine 85) Good thinking 86) You are really learning a lot 87) Good going 88) I ve never seen anyone do it better 89) Keep on trying 90) You outdid yourself today 91) Good for you 92) I think you ve got it now 93) That s a good (boy/girl) 94) Good job, (person s name) 95) You figured that out fast 96) You remembered! 97) That s really nice 98) That kind of work makes me happy 99) It s such a pleasure to teach you when work like that! 100) I think you re doing the right thing 101) You ve got it made